How to Find Calm During the Holidays

Even before the introduction of COVID-19 this year, the holidays have always managed to exert stress and panic. For me, social pressure and my own unnecessarily high standards often result in too much worrying about getting things “right”. However, I’ve learned the right lessons to help me and I’d like to share with you how to find calm during the holidays.

I urge you not to let the holidays become something you dread. With a little planning and some positive thinking, you can find peace and joy during the holidays. Here are some below tips on how you can find calm amidst holiday chaos.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

COVID-19 has wrecked everyone’s plans. If someone close to you has recently died or you can’t be with loved ones because of the coronavirus or any other reason, please realize that it’s normal to feel sadness and grief. It’s OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can’t force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holiday season. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have some great tips about coping with our feelings during this time.

Say “No” When Appropriate

This isn’t new advice, but it’s so vital that I cannot fail to add it to this list: learn to say no. It can be challenging during the holiday season to do this, but the sooner you’re able to draw the line between what you absolutely have to do and what you can skip out on, the sooner you’ll be able to find a calm state of mind.

Get Your Kids Involved

Ask family members, especially your kids, for help in planning and preparing for the holidays. The blog Very Well Mind recommends making your children feel like they’re an integral part of the events taking place, and I agree. Don’t treat your kids like a thorn in the side. Give them responsibilities and have them do some of the planning and the work involved in getting everything ready.

Think Positive

Is this going to be the worst holiday ever? Or the best? Your attitude largely determines your outcome. The Mayo Clinic emphasizes that positive thinking can increase your life span, lower rates of depression, and give you greater resistance to even the common cold. Considering the benefits, why not make a choice to think positive this year?

Make Sleep a Priority

I have a tendency to stay up late but then wake up feeling groggy. I can tell you on most days that’s when I feel my worst! The best thing you can do for yourself is to get a good night’s rest and leave that to-do list for tomorrow. If you’re looking for sleep tips, I encourage you to check out this helpful blog post.


Did you find these tips on how to find calm helpful? Was there something that I missed?

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